Update

So finally we have the analysis results.  2 out of the three numbers are great...the third not so much.    I was so hoping that for once the answer would be clear cut (3 for 3?  Let's start looking for an egg donor! or 0 for 3?  Bring on an embryo donor!).   But once again even that was thwarted by stupid math, science and dumb luck.

Based on what I have read, that third number is one of the most debatable in regard to how it impacts fertility.  Also, an additional step (at an additional cost of course) called ICSI (intracytoplasmic sperm injection) can be added to the process which increases the chance for success. So we shall see which side we land on, though I have a pretty good guess.

It is also time to update our home study (again!!!).  We use a local agency for our home study and as a part of her response in sending the update information the agency administrator said:

"I see that this is your third update.  Typically our families adopting domestically do not wait two+ years for placement.  Feel free to call me if you'd like to chat about some placement options."

She's not wrong.  Adoptive Families just released the data from their 2014-2015 survey.

You will note-at an almost 22 month wait time-we are finding our place among the slowest 25% (because, of course why wouldn't we be among the most atypical of the atypical!?!?).  However, I suspect our wait time has as much to do with our preferences (which are concrete at this time) as they do with our choice in adoption professional, so without a change in preferences I don't foresee changing or adding an additional adoptive professional is going to change very much for us wait wise.  

We do know a family who went with one of the suggested alternatives.  They were matched within about a month with birth parents who were expecting a little girl that matched their (which also happen to be our) preferences so the wait time is absolutely faster!.  That being said, the adoptive family ended up providing living expenses for the birth family (husband, wife and three kids) for 6 months as a part of the adoption plan.  Their daughter is an absolute doll and is without a doubt the little one meant for them; however, despite their very positive outcome and our increasing lack of patience we do not feel that an adoption plan of that nature is in our future.

So the bottom line is with the results in, a final answer to Donor Egg vs. Embryo Adoption question should be imminent which would result in some form of action.  Also, updating the home study, while it sucks to have to do it again- also gives us something productive to do on the adoption front.  

Fingers crossed that productive summer on both fronts leads to some positive results in the not so distance future!